With the passing of the new year my attention turned to what
I want to achieve in the next twelve months.
Yet again I find myself resolving to go to the gym more often, and when there,
work harder for longer.
What is it I want to achieve while I’m there? Well for me the most important reason for working
out
is that it improves my mental
health: a good workout gives me a sense of achievement, purifies my body of
stress toxins, and releases the ‘happy’ chemicals, endorphins, that lift my mood. Then there is looking more attractive: as I
am getting older, or so I reason, my body is one area that I still have some
control over. Alarmingly, making an
improvement in my physical health comes a poor third in my list of
priorities.
I suspect it’s the same for a lot of men. What is interesting is the increasing pressure men face to ‘own’ the beautiful body. We can’t do much about our faces, but we can change our physique, right? But which physique? For many years the fit and toned look epitomised by David Beckham was the gold standard of male physical beauty. But ever since Daniel Craig emerged from the sea in Casino Royale in 2006 there has been something of a shift to a more rugged muscular build. The pressure is on to not only slim down to a percentage body fat that reveals a washboard stomach, but also pile on the muscle to create that more angular ‘masculine’ silhouette.
What are these pressures doing to men? Well for many men it is simply no longer
acceptable to abuse your body and accept the middle age spread as an inevitable
consequence of growing older, just like a receding hairline. In some ways this is a good thing. Bodies that are worked out, generally speaking,
are healthier than those that never see the inside of a gym.
For some men, though, this has simple gone too far. The eating disorders of anorexia and bulimia, once diseases mainly restricted to women, are becoming increasingly prevalent in men, particularly young men. This is understandable when you realise you need a percentage body fat below 14 to reveal your abs (however big they are), and that maintaining this level of body fat is both difficult and unhealthy.
To these can be added a related, but peculiarly male disorder: bigorexia. There have been many attempts to define this condition, and they tend to come under guises such as ‘exercise addiction’ or, more formally, ‘muscle dysmorphia’, but they all capture one essential feature: the man is unhappy with how muscular he looks and, however big he builds up his muscles, he still feels that he is too small. Even if the man is asked to compare himself with another man of similar physique, he still sees himself as being smaller.
Bigorexia, in this sense, is closely linked to anorexia and bulimia, in that all three stem from a problem with the way the person perceives their body. Just as anorexia and bulimia leads to secondary problems, such as the use of laxatives or throat and teeth damage, men with bigorexia, can also develop a dependence on anabolic steroids – or ‘roids’.
Roids are freely available in most gyms around the country,
and hold the advantage that they can make you bulk up on muscle really
quickly. You still have to put the hours
in at the gym, but you get better results from the time you spend.
Sound ideal? Well consider the side effects of roids. First there are the risks of psychological dependence and the kind of physique they produce. Second is the disturbance in mood that roid use can bring about, particular making men more irritable and aggressive (hence the expression ‘roid rage’).
The dangers are not just psychological, but physical. Many men develop acne on their face and back. Roids can also stimulate the latent breast tissue in men causing what is sometimes referred to as ‘bitch tits’. The long term damage can also be severe, causing serious hormone regulation problems. If you use needles to inject the roids (which is not uncommon), there are also the risks of infection including hepatitis and, if needles are shared, HIV.
For guys with bigorexia though, these dangers are worth the price. In fact this is the real danger of bigorexia, the men who have it don’t identify as having a problem. For them, getting bigger becomes an all consuming passion, even an obsession, and they can’t see that they are doing themselves harm, and certainly wouldn’t consider getting help.
So where is the dividing line between wanting to shape up
and look fit, and exercising to the point you are doing yourself psychological
and physical harm? Well for me the real
point of danger is if you consider using roids to boost your muscle bulk. If you need to change your body shape so
badly, there is a potential problem.
For many men concern over their physical appearance is just one of the ways they experience low self worth. It’s not just men with bigorexia who are unhappy about their shape. Inevitably as men’s bodies continue to be object of fashion and used to boost commercial products from films to talcum powder, such low self esteem is set to continue to grow.
What can be done about it? The good news is that if you are continually obsessing about your body shape there are things that can be done. Learning to identify and change your style of thinking is central to therapy in this area and, provided you can accept you have a problem, is highly effective. The trick is to catch it early. If you leave it until you have full on bigorexia, you have probably left it far too late.
Dr Phil Tyson is a Men's Psychotherapist based in Manchester in the UK. He offers:
- Group therapy weekends for men in London and Manchester
- Beginners meditation weekend retreats for men in London and Manchester
- Counselling for men in Manchester
- Psychotherapy for men in Manchester
- Cognitive behavioural therapy for men in Manchester
- Telephone and online counselling for men wherever you live
- Mediation for conflict resolution at work in London
- Mediation for conflict resolution at work in Manchester and the North West
- Supervision and consulative support for therapists in Manchester
