Domestic abuse at the hands of women is a serious, but neglected issue. Domestic abuse does not just include physical abuse but also other non-physical forms of abuse such as bullying. Men find it difficult to report and challenge such abuse at the hands of their partners, and perhaps as a result, it remains an issue that skims under the radar of public perception.
Incredibly new research by the U.K. Government, and reported in the March issue of Therapy Today, shows that young men are most at risk. In fact young men are more at risk from their female partners, than young women are at risk from theirs. The figures showed that 6.4% of men in England and Wales between the ages of 20-24 say they were victims over the last year, compared to 5.4% of women.
What these figures challenge is the cultural myth that men are a danger to women: Clearly women can and do behave badly toward their male partners.
My position is that physical and verbal abuse at the hands of your partner is unacceptable, whether you are a woman, or a man. Unfortunately, although there are over 500 refuges for female victims of domestic abuse but only 12 for men. Sited in the same article, Mark Brooks from the men’s health charity Mankind is quoted as saying “... services for men are 35 years behind those for women and that’s simply not good enough’. I agree.
Although the study did report that women are more likely to be abused than men across the entire age range, the difference is only slight (2.2% of women and 2% of men). Clearly there is a lot of male suffering that is going unacknowledged. I can only imagine that the isolation that that brings compounds the abuse, leaving men to feel not only abused, but powerless.
Dr Phil Tyson is a Men's Psychotherapist based in Manchester in the UK. He offers:
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